In order to protect our mental health, sometimes we must participate in forgiving even when we don’t get an apology.
Have you ever been so angered by someone from your past, a loved one, or a situation you couldn’t control? Did you ever get an apology from them or the people involved in the situation? Whether the answer was yes or no, did you forgive them? Did you truly release the pain or anger you felt? Today I want to share with you 3 reasons why forgiving others when an apology won’t happen (or you don’t accept it) is crucial in protecting your mental health.
Be Right Or Be Free
If you read my review on 52 Ways to Live A Kick-Ass Life, then you know I’ve been working on myself recently. One of her quotes in the book really struck a chord with me, brought tears to my eyes, and stopped my heart for a moment. The quote said “Would you rather be right or would you rather be free?”. How powerful is that? Have you ever looked a situation, argument, or problem like that? Once I read that I was struck. I don’t want to hold onto anything that doesn’t serve me in a positive way and holding onto anger, resentment, and pain is not positive. I would rather be free from my own mind and feel at peace in my heart than be controlled by someone or something that could care less. Take this time to release the negativity you feel in your heart. Being free is so much better than waiting for the apology that will never come. Forgiving someone or something despite how you feel will actually shift those feelings into a peaceful calm.
A Forgiving Heart = A Grateful Soul
I used to hold a lot of pain and anger towards a few family members of mine who damaged me (or so I thought) in one way or another. I’m not here to put anyone on blast, but my truth is that my past was full of light and dark. A couple years ago I went to a marketing conference in Miami that was 1) enormous and 2) seemed more like a self-help conference than a marketing one. During one of the talks giving by the head of the company, he asked us all to stand, close our eyes and start forgiving people. He walked us through the basic wording of how to forgive them and then let us fill in the rest. I started crying right away and felt a huge release of pain and anger. I could literally walk on cloud 9 after that talk.
That conference and the forgiving chats I had in my head with these family members have made me so grateful for everything I’ve been through. It bought me closure to many things I had felt entitled to in my pain for so long. It strengthened my relationship with the family member I’m in most contact with and made me realize that I wasn’t damaged. We can choose how we hold onto things, what were grateful for, and whether or not we want to be the forgiving type of people. In everything I’ve felt and gone through, I’ve chosen to be grateful for and forgive (when necessary) everyone and everything.
You’re Worth So Much More
Some people will never apologize. Some situations just happen. But you are worth so much more than the pain and anger you hold inside you because of it. You are stronger than what happens to you and you are better than what negative people say and do to you. Forgiving others doesn’t do any harm to you. All it does it free you from your own prison. You deserve to be emotionally free and happy.
How does forgiving others help you?
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